Remember there is a person on the other side
It is easy to forget, when watching on a screen, that the people appearing are adults doing a job. They have families, privacy, bad days and boundaries, exactly as you do. That simple recognition shapes almost every sensible habit that follows.
This post is general etiquette and does not describe any specific features of MyDirtyHobby. The platform describes itself as an adult social network, according to its entry page, and any rules about how members interact are set out in its own terms. Read those, and follow them.
Our wider guide to respect and etiquette covers the basics in short form. Here we go a little further.
Boundaries are not negotiable
A creator who declines a request has given you a complete answer. They do not owe an explanation, a second chance or a softer version. Pushing, repeating the request or trying to wear someone down is harassment, whatever the tone.
The same goes for tone. Keep comments polite, and avoid anything demeaning about someone's appearance, work or choices. You would not tolerate being spoken to that way, and neither should anyone else.
- Do not demand personal details such as real names, addresses or workplaces.
- Do not try to identify or track down anyone.
- Do not pressure for contact outside the site.
- Do not expect replies, favours or attention in return for being a fan.
If someone's behaviour towards you ever feels pushy, the same rules apply in reverse. You can say no, and you can leave.
Privacy and content belong to the creator
Content made by a creator is theirs to share on their own terms. Copying it, reposting it or passing it around without permission can cause real harm, and may break the law and the platform's terms. Piracy is not a harmless shortcut.
The bigger worry is private information. Never post or pass on anything that could identify a person, and never share content that was meant to stay private. If you come across material that appears to have been shared without consent, you can report it to the site concerned. Where intimate images are involved, StopNCII.org offers help.
Think too about your own footprint. Public comments are visible to others and can be screenshotted. Our guide to browser hygiene helps keep your own details tidy.
Supporting people the right way
If you choose to spend money on content, do it through the platform's official routes, so that the creator is actually paid and you are protected by the platform's terms. The platform's own pages are where to check how that works, as we do not describe payments here.
Be cautious about anyone, whether presenting as a creator or not, who asks you to pay by gift card or crypto, move to a different app, or send money directly. Genuine creators do not need you to bypass the site. Our post on gift card and crypto requests explains the risk.
Fair support is also about patience. Do not expect constant availability. People take breaks, change direction or stop. That is their right.
When something seems wrong
The site is for adults aged 18 and over. If anyone appears to be underage, leave immediately and report them to the site. There is no grey area on this point.
Report harassment, threats and impersonation through the platform's reporting tools. If you suspect that someone is being coerced or that content was made without consent, report that as well and do not engage. Our post on consent in adult media explains why this matters.
Respect is a habit, not a gesture. If you are ever unsure whether something is acceptable, the question to ask is simple: would I be comfortable if this person could read my message or see what I was about to do? If the answer is no, do not do it.
A fan code you can actually keep
If a list helps, keep it short. Be polite. Accept no. Pay only through official routes. Keep private things private. Report what is wrong. Five rules cover almost every situation, and none of them takes effort.
These habits also protect you. People who stay within sensible boundaries are far less likely to meet scams, fall into awkward situations or end up in trouble with a platform's rules. Courtesy is not only kind; it is good self-defence.
If you ever feel your attachment to a particular creator is growing beyond what feels healthy, treat that as a prompt to step back. Our post on gentle ways to reset can help.
Finally, notice how you talk about the people you watch when speaking to friends. Casual contempt, jokes at someone's expense and assumptions about their lives all shape attitudes more than we admit. Speaking about adult performers and creators with the same basic decency you expect for yourself is a quiet but real form of respect.
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Platform features are described as the platform presents them; we cannot verify them independently and details can change. Independent guide; adults 18+ only.